So I am realizing lately that I have some unexplained issue with simply saying "no". I can say it to my daughter... sorta, I can say it to my husband... most times, but anyone else... I find it virtually IMPOSSIBLE! A normal conversation:
Them: "Shana can you be here Sunday from sun up to sundown with no lunch, oh and it's 45 miles from your house"
ME "Well... ummm... thats really far and ummm.... it's a really long day, what am I doing?
Them: Smiling and sitting there, oh ad there may be limited bathroom breaks
Me: Ummm.... am I getting paid, no, oh ummm..... sure, I will be there"
No clue what my deal is, I know that I aim to please but geez louise! Grant always tells me that I need to do better about saying no, I need to understand that it is ok and perfectly acceptable. Well, I dont want people mad at me and I surely don't want to let them down. I am busy all the time, besides working and talking care of noodle and being a wife and trying to find some time to clean my house I find time to do all of this charity work. I love it and I love to volunteer but I can't be busy 7 days a week or I will loose it. I know all of this... that is what makes my inability to say no so damn funny. It's like knowing that it's going to hurt when you hit your thumb with a hammer but choosing to do it anyway.
Oh well... It will continue. This weekend is my brother in laws birthday, going to an Angel game and then I think I am going to take Krystina to the Festival of Children on Sunday, then next weekend is Grant's drill weekend in SD (OH and I am currently doing nothing) then the following is the hubby's birthday and the following I am judging a pageant... then I have 2 weekends free before my next thing.... then again that is until someone calls and asks me to do something and I can't find it in me to say no.
Oh well... It will continue. This weekend is my brother in laws birthday, going to an Angel game and then I think I am going to take Krystina to the Festival of Children on Sunday, then next weekend is Grant's drill weekend in SD (OH and I am currently doing nothing) then the following is the hubby's birthday and the following I am judging a pageant... then I have 2 weekends free before my next thing.... then again that is until someone calls and asks me to do something and I can't find it in me to say no.
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Got it.
I try hard not to even answer the door when people are selling stuff just for that reason. It goes something like this...
ME: "Hi, what are you selling?"
THEM: "My future!"
(It's high school kids selling the newspaper... for every one... they get credit toward their college fund."
How do you say no to that??
I too... have a problem saying no... I would imagine a lot of us do.
Hope things slow down for you...
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